“Look at a day when you are supremely satisfied at the end. It’s not a day when you lounge around doing nothing; it’s a day you’ve had everything to do and you’ve done it.”
― Margaret Thatcher
When you’re feeling down, a great way to cheer yourself up is doing something that makes you feel productive. I know that it’s a hard thing to do. When you are in a bad mood or pissed off, all you want to do is sit and sulk…but that’s the worst thing to do! Sitting at home feeling mopey isn’t going to help you – so get up off your butt and do something that makes you feel good about yourself!
When I lost my job, I felt defeated (and bored). Even though I was spending hours looking for jobs and networking, I never felt satisfied at the end of the day. I didn’t feel like I had achieved anything as there were no immediate results, I didn’t learn anything new or do anything that made me feel like a better person. I realized that it was important to find something that made me excited to get up in the morning and feel better about myself (without interfering with the job hunt, of course).
So…….I decided to learn how to cook.
“I did not become confident because I lost weight. I lost weight because I became confident.”
I felt that this was an important topic to talk about because some might think that I feel confident because I have lost a lot of weight and better fit in with society’s standards of beauty. But that’s not the case…
In my opinion, any major self-confidence you gain from purely changing your outer appearance, whether through weight loss or plastic surgery, is superficial and will not be long lasting (a controversial statement, I know). True sustainable inner confidence comes when you discover who you are, why you behave the way you do, and what makes you special. Unfortunately, I’ve seen too many women lose weight and then put it back on or get plastic surgery and then find other fixable “flaws” because they never dealt with why they overeat and why they felt the need to take extreme action and “go under the knife”.
Let me explain further with a very personal story:
Who am I?
Why did I start this blog?
A couple years ago, I was thinking about starting a blog to share my beauty tips, tricks, and product recommendations. I never went to beauty school but I worked for a cosmetic company and have learned a lot from books, articles, observing others, and self-trial. I decided not to start the blog because, as a marketer, I didn’t think I had an interesting enough angle to make it worthwhile.
The past two years, however, were life changing! I was laid off from my job, had to make a new group of friends, lost over 40 pounds, learned how to cook and took my first solo vacation. Through all this, I finally discovered my inner strength and beauty. I became interested in analyzing the concept of beauty and happiness and how they relate to inner confidence – ie. What makes someone beautiful? Does confidence come naturally? Is happiness a choice? What can we do to make ourselves feel more beautiful / confident / happy? …etc.
So…I finally found my angle and decided to start this blog!
Why should you follow my blog?
Every women, at some point, struggles with self-acceptance, appreciation and feeling beautiful. Sometimes all it takes is a dash of mascara, inspiring story or compliment from a stranger to make you feel fabulous!
I hope that I can entertain, teach and/or inspire you by sharing my experiences, discoveries, thoughts, and beauty tips. Every woman deserves to feel beautiful!