“Look at a day when you are supremely satisfied at the end. It’s not a day when you lounge around doing nothing; it’s a day you’ve had everything to do and you’ve done it.”
― Margaret Thatcher
When you’re feeling down, a great way to cheer yourself up is doing something that makes you feel productive. I know that it’s a hard thing to do. When you are in a bad mood or pissed off, all you want to do is sit and sulk…but that’s the worst thing to do! Sitting at home feeling mopey isn’t going to help you – so get up off your butt and do something that makes you feel good about yourself!
When I lost my job, I felt defeated (and bored). Even though I was spending hours looking for jobs and networking, I never felt satisfied at the end of the day. I didn’t feel like I had achieved anything as there were no immediate results, I didn’t learn anything new or do anything that made me feel like a better person. I realized that it was important to find something that made me excited to get up in the morning and feel better about myself (without interfering with the job hunt, of course).
So…….I decided to learn how to cook.
“I did not become confident because I lost weight. I lost weight because I became confident.”
I felt that this was an important topic to talk about because some might think that I feel confident because I have lost a lot of weight and better fit in with society’s standards of beauty. But that’s not the case…
In my opinion, any major self-confidence you gain from purely changing your outer appearance, whether through weight loss or plastic surgery, is superficial and will not be long lasting (a controversial statement, I know). True sustainable inner confidence comes when you discover who you are, why you behave the way you do, and what makes you special. Unfortunately, I’ve seen too many women lose weight and then put it back on or get plastic surgery and then find other fixable “flaws” because they never dealt with why they overeat and why they felt the need to take extreme action and “go under the knife”.
Let me explain further with a very personal story: